Seven years ago, I lost my best friend, Ife.
The weight of that sentence still hits differently every time I write it, think it, or say it out loud. There’s something about grief that defies the neat timelines we try to impose on it…
But grief isn’t linear. It doesn’t follow schedules or respect anniversaries. It doesn’t care that it’s been seven years.
In this deeply personal reflection, I explore how grief ambushes us at unexpected moments, why healing doesn’t mean forgetting, and the permission we need to give ourselves to not be “over it” on anyone else’s timeline.
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Originally published May 30, 2025